EMDR: For When You Know Better But Can't Do Better

Who It's For

This is for you if asking for help feels physically uncomfortable — if you'd rather struggle alone than risk being "too much." If your early relationships taught you that your needs were negotiable and everyone else's weren't, and that lesson is still quietly running your adult relationships, your friendships, and the way you talk to yourself.

The Problem This Helps With

Difficulty identifying, expressing, or even feeling entitled to your own emotional needs — often paired with over-functioning in relationships, difficulty receiving care, or a pattern of connecting with others primarily by being useful to them. This isn't a character flaw. It's an attachment pattern, and it's learnable to unlearn.

What EMDR Is

Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy looks at how your earliest attachment experiences shaped the way you relate to your own emotions and to the people around you now. It helps you slow down and actually feel what's happening underneath the automatic response — the anxiety under the "I'm fine," the loneliness under the constant productivity — and build a new, more secure relationship with your own needs instead of managing around them indefinitely.

EFIT: For When Needing Something Has Always Felt Like A Burden

You've learned to manage your own needs quietly instead of voicing them. EFIT works with the attachment patterns that taught you connection means disappearing what you need.

EFIT: WHEN NEEDING SOMETHING FEELS LIKE TOO MUCH

How EFIT Works

This therapy suits those who can identify everyone else's needs in a room before they can name their own. You minimize what you need, apologize for taking up space, and feel more comfortable giving care than receiving it. If you're a nurse, healthcare worker, or a woman who's spent years being the reliable one, EFIT often reaches a pattern talk therapy alone hasn't moved.

Early attachment experiences can teach you that your needs are negotiable and everyone else's aren't. That lesson doesn't stay in childhood — it runs your adult relationships, your friendships, and the way you talk to yourself. EFIT targets that root pattern directly, not just its symptoms.

EFIT works in the present moment, slowing down emotional experience as it happens rather than only discussing it after the fact. This process helps you notice what's happening in your body and emotions in real time, building a different relationship to your own needs instead of overriding them by habit.

What Sessions Look Like

Guided Emotional Processing, At Your Pace

We work in the present moment, slowing down emotional experiences as they come up in session rather than only discussing them abstractly. You'll be asked to notice what's happening in your body and your emotions in real time, not just report on events from your week. Over time, this builds a felt sense of safety around having needs at all — something most talk-only approaches don't reach. Sessions run 50 minutes, at a pace that respects how unfamiliar this can feel at first.



If needing something has always felt like a burden, book a free consult and let's talk about changing that.